How to Make Wedding Traditions Your Own
Wedding traditions are different all around the world. Here are a few of the most common traditions couples often follow in the United States and some alternatives that can offer a more unique and personal experience for your guests!
“Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.”
Gathering all these things on your wedding day symbolizes good fortune for the bride. I’d say your good fortune is marrying the love of your life, so if you forget one or more of these on your big day, don’t fret!
Having a wedding party.
Bridesmaids were originally included in weddings to guard the bride from evil spirits and make her look better standing next to their often tacky gowns. It’s fantastic to include special people in your day, but don’t feel pressure to give them a certain title. You can have them play any role you’d like!
Wearing a white wedding dress.
Queen Victoria started the trend of wearing white to your wedding back in 1840. It clearly stuck as many brides still walk down the aisle wearing a classic white gown. Choosing a dress in a different color is a great way to show your personality on your wedding day. You can opt for a light blush or champagne or go all out with something blue or a bold floral print.
Glass clinking for a newlywed smooch.
Sometimes it feels like all you hear during dinner at a wedding reception is clinking glasses. This sound was, at one time, thought to scare off any devilish spirits, allowing the newlyweds to kiss. Today, couples opt to have their guests do different things to get them to smooch such as telling a story or joke, spinning a “how should we kiss?” wheel, donating to a local charity, or demonstrating a kiss themselves.
Not seeing your fiance before the wedding ceremony.
This tradition stems from when arranged marriages were common. The couple wouldn’t meet until they were standing face to face at the altar to avoid anyone calling off the wedding. A lot of couples still follow this rule, but tend to make exceptions like seeing one another the morning of. It can build a whole lot of emotions and excitement waiting the whole day to see your partner at the end of the aisle. However, first looks are another great option. It can ease your nerves before the ceremony to be with your partner and allows extra time for amazing photos like these!
The bouquet and garter toss.
The origin of this tradition is quite “saucy”. Brides and grooms used to consummate their marriage immediately after saying “I do”. Tossing the bouquet was a distraction for their guests and the garter was the groom’s “proof” of having done the deed. Let me pause and say that as a planner, THANK GOODNESS, we don’t have to work this kind of thing into the day of timeline anymore! Haha! To say the least, this tradition has dated itself, so don’t feel pressure to formally throw things at your single guests if it’s not up your alley.
Wearing a veil.
Brides used to wear veils to ward off evil spirits on their wedding day. Today, veils come in all different styles, lengths, and colors. Experiment with what you feel best in and don’t feel obligated to wear one at all!
Cutting a wedding cake.
Cutting the cake with your new spouse symbolizes the first task you two do together as a married couple. Don’t like cake? There are so many different dessert options out there! Pies, ice cream, mini eclairs, donuts, popsicles, waffles, crepes, mini bundt cakes…..and that’s just to name a few! You could also “complete a task” that relates to something you like to do together. Love gardening? Plant a flower! Love traveling? Put a must-have travel item in a suitcase hand in hand. Can’t live without coffee? Take a sip of your favorite latte. Yogis? Do your favorite yoga pose together. There are countless ways to customize this tradition for your love story!
Tradition # 9
The newlywed’s grand exit.
Rice in the eye?! OUCH! No one wants that as they come down the aisle hand in hand with their new spouse. Although this exact tradition isn’t seen very often anymore, guests will still blow bubbles, hold sparklers, or wave ribbons at the happy couple as they make their grand exit. It signifies the guests “showering” the happy couple with good fortune for their marriage.
The main takeaway for any couple planning their big day is just because things are “tradition”, doesn’t mean you HAVE to do them. Talk with your fiance about which are important to you as a couple and which you could do without. It’s also important to talk with your family and find out if there are any traditions unique to your family tree. Just remember, traditions or not, there is no wrong way to do your wedding day!
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